August 4, 2010
Question about diamond rings?
Becky asked:
When my husband and I got married he went to the jewelry store and picked out my ring (which is beautiful) and I have not taken it off in the 6 years we have been married. It is not u r typical engagement ring it is more of a right hand type diamond ring. I did not say anything because he did go on his own and purchase this for me and it is beautiful. My anniversary is coming up and I was thinking that I would like to have a bridal set with the diamond and the wedding band and wear the ring that I have on my right hand but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I had also thought that I could just go and by an anniversary band and wear on my right hand. I would very much like to hear opinions on this.
MissE:
You r correct it is OUR anniversary, however, u don’t seem to have had many dealings with men. Most men could care less about jewelry and most men spend as much on there little hangups as woman do on theirs. To each their own I guess. P.S. I would buy him one but he don’t wear diamonds
Working with men and having a man is a little different.
When my husband and I got married he went to the jewelry store and picked out my ring (which is beautiful) and I have not taken it off in the 6 years we have been married. It is not u r typical engagement ring it is more of a right hand type diamond ring. I did not say anything because he did go on his own and purchase this for me and it is beautiful. My anniversary is coming up and I was thinking that I would like to have a bridal set with the diamond and the wedding band and wear the ring that I have on my right hand but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I had also thought that I could just go and by an anniversary band and wear on my right hand. I would very much like to hear opinions on this.
MissE:
You r correct it is OUR anniversary, however, u don’t seem to have had many dealings with men. Most men could care less about jewelry and most men spend as much on there little hangups as woman do on theirs. To each their own I guess. P.S. I would buy him one but he don’t wear diamonds
Working with men and having a man is a little different.
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If you don’t want to hurt his feelings you should leave well enough alone.
Go spend your own money and buy it !!
Wear what he chose for you.
Doing anything else is going to seriously hurt his feelings.
Wear what your husband gives you , because that is what he picked from his heart. Its not the diamonds ,its not the gold but is his hand you hold.
Ask him.
He may not mind that you want the other set, and will be ok with you wearing the other ring elsewhere.
If it seems to bother him, drop it. It sounds to me like you want him happy, and the ring would be nice, but his happiness is more important to you.
Since you can’t read his mind, and all of this hinges on what he’d think, ask him.
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He probably has some tail on the side by now, may as well just continue to do what you want.
I’m not sure. I’d definitely feel bad about wanting to switch the ring, like you. But I’d go ahead with it. He married you because he loves you, the ring is just a pretty little thing he bought you to cement your love and make you his bride. You’re already his bride now, so don’t worry about hurting his feelings, if you have to look at this ring everyday wouldn’t you rather be happy about it? I’m sure he wants you to be happy. And even though I know nothing about your man, I don’t think he’ll be upset about you switching a ring, he gets to wake up next to you.
It isn’t the ring that matters, but the fact that he bought this ring thinking about you and what he wanted to give you. You say the ring is beautiful, and the thought behind the ring is also. The thought is the most important. If you want a set of rings tell him that you would like to add to the ring and ask him to go with you to pick out the band to go with it, or to trade up to a set. You know how he will feel if you bring this up, is it worth hurting him in any way, and better to leave it alone, or will he understand and want to give you more.
I think it’s a great idea. The more diamond rings the better, IMO. A lot of women do this. As long as you can afford another ring, bring up the subject to him. Or better yet go to the mall together and happen to go by the jewelry store with him. Bring it up like you just thought of it.
I seriously don’t understand this. How could you want to wear a different ring as your wedding ring? It wasn’t the ring you were married with, it isn’t the same. It would be a “fake” for your vanity. Nothing could ever make me give up my wedding and engagement ring for another.
Sorry I really don’t understand the issue. The whole diamond engagement ring and right hand ring was INVENTED by DeBeers diamonteers as a marketing ploy. Seems to have worked just fine.
Personally I think you have way to many hang ups on this if you feel that it is right to spend that kind of money of your anniversary (as in both your husbands and yours NOT just yours as you indicate in your question) on you, yourself only and thinking it is right to have that and hurt your spouses feeling just because of some marketing ploy. I think to be honest your are sounding rather self centred and selfish in this.
Why not buy him a diamond ring if it means that much to you?
ETA: ROFL I do deal a lot with men, I work almost exclusively with them and most of my friends are men.
And just because they are selfish in spending a lot on their little hang ups does not mean you are not.
Ultimately it comes down to; it should be something to celebrate your life together NOT to sponsor your hang up.
PS Oh honey I have a real man. I am very very happily married to a wonderful giving and loving man that values our relationship and me. A man that I would never treat the way you are treating your husband because basically you are saying is gift for your engagement is worthless.
i think you are excited too much. don’t rush.!!
he must be planning something as well. if not this time, then may be next time you would PROBABLY get it but don’t ask/demand him. else you’ll hurt him..
goodluck.